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  Sample Disassociation Letter please?

  by LifesNotOver in

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  2. beliefs

  i want to send a disassociation letter to the elders at my old congregation.

  how do i address it and what wording do i use?

  i know it's not something i have to do, it's symbolic for me.

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  Sailor, just curious if that got them to avoid making the public announcement? And with what result? Does everyone still shun you/treat you as DFd? In what area do you live?
  Thx! for sharing your experience.

  DOC, I live on the Northeast Coast of the USA. I am not shunned. JWs are polite and cordial when we cross paths in town. We exchange pleasantries and family news. I recently had a lovely 2-hour-long chat with my former P.O. at our retinal specialist's office. This blew my mind. He had to have seen my letter!

  That said, I am clearly on a do-not-call list. They skip my door when in the neighborhood. I don't call them, and they don't call me. I like it that way!

  I walked away in 2011, and resigned in 2015. You can see my letter posted on this forum.

  Diane
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  Sample Disassociation Letter please?

  by LifesNotOver in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i want to send a disassociation letter to the elders at my old congregation.

  how do i address it and what wording do i use?

  i know it's not something i have to do, it's symbolic for me.

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  Sail Away

  I couldn't in good conscience remain a JW because of all of the pain I witnessed due to shunning and protecting pedophiles. I wasn't about to shun my DF'D son under any circumstances. I chose to write a letter of resignation (sent by certified mail from my high-powered lawyer) and threatened to sue them if they announced it from the platform. Best option for me. I don't have to deal with the shunning game in small town America, and I can live my life freely without looking over my shoulder. Life is good.
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  Best statement a householder made to get you to leave them alone.

  by Esse quam videri in

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  2. experiences

  knocked on a door on a saturday morning.

  a window opened on the floor above me.

  a grizzled old man stuck his head out and said, " we're all heathens here!

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  Sail Away

  In a mobile home surrounded by waist-deep snow in rural North Dakota, USA:

  "I moved all the way from New York City to get away from you people. Go away!"
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  Do JWs Regard You As An APOSTATE?

  by minimus in

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  2. friends

  i doubt people consider me an apostate but you never know.🤓.

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  Sail Away

  I'm not DF'd, didn't DA, but I did send a letter of resignation threatening to sue them all if they announced it from the stage. They are not allowed to come to home or place of business in any official capacity. I am clearly on a do-not-call list, but have never been shunned in public. I don't call them, and they don't call me, and I like it that way. Like Blondie said-- inactive and stumbled. Whatever.
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  GUYS: The Importance of Keeping Medical Appointments

  by compound complex in

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  2. friends

  greetings, guys:.

  all of us -- men and women -- should keep our medical appointments.

  i address this post to guys, however, given my own reluctance to go to the doctor.

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  Sail Away

  My husband's PSA has been in the "undetectable" range since diagnosis two years ago, but now it is doubling every three months. The cancer was found upon physical exam by a urologist, not a general practitioner.
  
  

  AFRIKANMAN
  PSA Test is not the best guide - It can fluctuate for all sorts of reasons apparently....
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  GUYS: The Importance of Keeping Medical Appointments

  by compound complex in

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  2. friends

  greetings, guys:.

  all of us -- men and women -- should keep our medical appointments.

  i address this post to guys, however, given my own reluctance to go to the doctor.

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  Sail Away

  My husband refused to go for a yearly checkup for his entire life (His JW parents are rabidly against medical professionals.) He finally agreed to go when he turned 62. Unfortunately, his primary care doctor missed cancer. The only reason they found it was because my husband had kidney stones. He denied feeling ill and all the pain all summer until he needed emergency surgery. (By the way this was a repeat performance of needing ER surgery to have his gallery bladder removed after the months of denial.)

  The urologist found the cancer. Large tumor, Stage III, Gleason Score 9. Very aggressive cancer. 50/50 chance that 8 weeks of radiation will keep it from metastasis.

  I'm not saying run to the doctor for every little thing. Just be f*cking reasonable.
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  The Timing of Telling My Parents My College Plans.

  by WeatherLover in

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  i know that at some point i have to tell my parents that i'm planning to go to college.

  i basically have two options:.

  1. tell them early.

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  Sail Away

  My daughter started college as a commuter at age 17 when I was still a JW. Her faded unbelieving father and I were committed to paying for all costs including commuting.

  The day our daughter turned 18, she put her bags by the front door, informed us that she had taken out a loan for the co-ed dorm and was moving out. This was exceedingly painful for me at the time, and our relationship was strained for ten years after. We are absolutely fine now.

  As a parent, I would vote for giving your parents a head's up, but only you can decide if you are ready to go it alone if they kick you out.

  Wishing you all the best,

  Diane
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  A quick Biblical question....

  by dubstepped in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  my wife and i were talking about how religions claim to be directed by god, yet god never seemed to let any of them know about the danger of sexual predatora to children.

  the it hit me, does the bible say anything on the subject?

  is there a thou shalt not diddle kids scripture?

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  Sail Away

  David-Jay, thank you for your kind words.
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  A quick Biblical question....

  by dubstepped in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  my wife and i were talking about how religions claim to be directed by god, yet god never seemed to let any of them know about the danger of sexual predatora to children.

  the it hit me, does the bible say anything on the subject?

  is there a thou shalt not diddle kids scripture?

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  Sail Away

  Dubstepped, the comment triggered my PTSD. No judgement against you. Just reality.

  So if I don't concede to your bullying, you believe the best approach is to judge me?

  but if you do care to understand others here's your chance.
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  A quick Biblical question....

  by dubstepped in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  my wife and i were talking about how religions claim to be directed by god, yet god never seemed to let any of them know about the danger of sexual predatora to children.

  the it hit me, does the bible say anything on the subject?

  is there a thou shalt not diddle kids scripture?

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  Sail Away

  Is there a thou shalt not diddle kids scripture?

  What a horrible way to phrase this question. Clearly, you have never been sexually assaulted, nor has anyone you love.

  PS Maybe there is time for you to rethink and edit your question on behalf of those who might be triggered by it. Of late, nearly every time I come to this site, I ask myself, "Just what we're you thinking?"